Seriously, I’ve really, really missed you!! And you know what? This has been a loooong time coming. I’ve scripted (and re-scripted) this email a thousand times in my head but somehow something would get in the way or the timing just didn’t seem right and suddenly almost a year had past. A YEAR, people. Can you believe it??
So where the heck have I been? Well, for starters, I’ve been LIVING (my now favorite activity). But I’ve also been busy getting UBER clear on who I am now (and who I’m not), exploring the edges & undulations of the thumbprint of God on me‑decoded version: what exactly it is that I and only I can do‑falling apart a million and freakin’ CLEARING THE DECKS. In summary, I remade myself. Again.
We live in a world that comes at us with a ever increasing zillion and one options for a bazillion and one things. All at once. 24/7. And for someone who knows better (thanks to a year of required house isolation post-bone marrow transplants a couple of years ago) the constant deluge of the information and activity in the world at large, along with a barrage of messaging, answers, pitches, agendas, opinions & slogans can be,quite frankly, overwhelming. But the truth is, it’s only overwhelming when we’re not crystalline clear on who WE are, what WE reeeealy want, what problems WE need to work on & what problems WE can solve for others. Then, and only then, the gush slows to a blessed trickle of highly useful, highly impactful, highly ENERGIZING info that ticks all our boxes, allowing the other bazillion options to slide effortlessly from our sphere of attention and out of our already overstuffed lives to create some beautiful (and much needed) SPACE. Can I get a “amen”?!
So drilling down on that even further:
“CLARITY IS POWER. And it’s worth spending some serious time on.” ‑@phillips_alyssa
(and yes, that’s a good “tweet tweet”, if you do the “tweet tweet” thing :))
And guess what? Around the time we last spoke I realized I wasn’t clear in some key areas. So I did the one thing we’re not taught to do and is considered heresy these days. I waited.
More specifically, I actively waited. What does that mean? Well, it means that you allow a process bigger than you to happen while doing the work you need to to do your part in the process. Think of a baby oak tree that’s just wrestled it’s way out of the earth. Just like you wouldn’t go yanking on the tender sprout or scream at it to grow faster, allowing it to grow up on its own accord & trusting the innate wisdom inherent in, you’d still water and tend to it, protecting it as it takes root. Sometimes in our lives WE’RE tender shoots. Strong in possibility but fragile in our newness.
This was me in a very real way for a long while. I had the wisdom of a sturdy oak imprinted on the inside but I knew I was still too bendable to be out in the elements for long stretches. There’s power & strength in being both fragile & strong. Lesson: Sometimes herimitude is the wise, loving choice. To let ourselves get strong and allow a larger process to happen. …And sometimes it’s just a cop out. An important distinction to make and I’ve learned to get really honest with myself as to which one I’m up to.
So after spending a (unplanned) YEAR getting crystalline clear on my “stuff”, I’m more “oak-ish”. On me. On how I’m wired‑‘cause it’s all changed. A lot. On my vision. On my purpose. On my brand. On my dreams. On my desires. On the people I want to spin in my orbit. On what I want to learn. On who & what I need to say hello to and also where I need to say goodbye. Even on something as basic as what it takes for me to say “yes”. (Which, by the way, I think it’s pretty darn good, if I do say so myself, and if you’d like to take a peek or use mine as a spring board for making your own “Yes” Filter, take a look at the image I made for you below).
Anyway, I want to keep this on the short side of long and I promise be back in touch soon to share the awesomeness that I’ve been working hard on for you but I want you to know that the biggest transition I’ve made over the last year has been a self-prescribed shift from “me” to “YOU”. I’m blessed to know that part of my purpose is to indeed share my story, a story that has always been bigger than me, but now it’s time to share the “how”, the “why” & “how you can too” part. And it’s gonna be awesome. I can’t wait to share it with you.
And hey, at least if my motivations about any of this are ever called into question I can always point back to this time as a shining example of “what not to do when starting a new endeavor if you’re just in it for the money/fame/attention/whatever” and be able to say with absolute confidence: “Really?? ‘Cause if I were just in it for me, then I never, ever ever would of set down my new “baby” for a whole year simply because God nudged me in the ribs and said, “We gotta get you clear on a couple things first.” And since I roll where God tells me to now…
This not so subtle nudge from above to get my hiney back in the saddle again came from some exciting, time-sensitive news. I’m thrilled to shine a well-deserved spotlight on the bone marrow group where I was treated by telling you that they now have the #1 survival rate in the nation and will appear on the Discovery Channel’s show “The Profile Series” at 7am TOMORROW MORNING in a featured medical segment by Larry King called “IN VIEW”. And needless to say, I was more than a little humbled when they asked me to do it with them. So, if you want take a peek or just check out my sassy new “do” (hint: I can now cut my own hair with electric clippers!), then be sure to tune in! :)
And thank you, as always, for hanging out with me here, for inviting me into your world & for being YOU. We’re all “works in progress” & I want to help you however I can to be the best version of you possible. And I want to hear about YOUR new “Yes” Filter. In the comments below tell me what it now takes for YOU to say “yes”, times in your life when YOU”VE been a “new shoot”, waited for a process to occur or even when you didn’t wait but wished you had. I want to hear it all! :)
With a happy heart to be back in the saddle again & scads of love…Tweet